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Last post….

This is my last post for the year….for the next three weeks and maybe more.
A month ago, I wanted to give up everything…BODIE and FOU, the blog, trying for a baby, trying for so many things, now I just think f**k it. I just want a break, go to the beach, eat healthily, sleep, feel fit again and be with the people I love.

{The F**k it therapy}

Last year when Mila and I flew to France to say goodbye to my grand-mother before she passed away, I read an article about the “F**k It therapy” in Grazia and how liberating it felt to say f**k it. 
It made me laugh but it was true…it does feel good to say F**K IT loud and clear. 
While in France by her side, I taught one of my aunts to say it and we had a good laugh despite the sad circumstances that brought us together. It felt good because it’s like saying no to the things/people who spoil your life. It feels good because it’s like making a stand for your well-being, be in control of what you want and not give a damn about what other people think of you. 
I didn’t realise how much I missed my grand-mother until a few months later when I saw an old lady crossing the street who reminded me of her and I cried.
I cried again last week when she died because it felt terribly sad. I know she came from a loving family and sometimes it is not enough but it made me realise how lucky I am, we are as a family and how grateful we owe to be.

{3 positive things/day}

Since then, we’ve introduced a new family tradition which is to say 3 positive things about our day to each other. I think it’s a good thing to teach to Mila, to focus on the positive thing rather than dwelling on the negative. She wasn’t in complete agreement when I made her work extra hard for her school assignments but two days later, 2 out of her 3 positive things was to get a great mark at school and that I helped her with her homework.
Sometimes, an hour walk to the office does the trick for me or walking our dog as family makes Steve’s evening walk suddenly a lot better, sometimes it is just being grateful for what we have and how precious it is.
So I’m at peace now. I haven’t sorted everything in my life that stressed me out in the first place but right now, I don’t give a monkey. I’m just gonna have a break, take care of myself and enjoy quality time with the ones I love and I would like to end this post on a few things…

Whatever you are going through, this too shall pass
and if doesn’t, say f**k it.

I wish you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year


Filed under: Well-being


Founder of Award-Winning Concept Store BODIE and FOU (now closed) & Photographer, UK's Top 10 Design blog, mum of one cool surfer, 23 years in London, now living by the beach in France, married to a kiwi.


  1. Brilliant therapy advice my lovely. You have so much amazing stuff in your life and have worked hard to create so many amazing g hi vs too-and they will all be here when you get back-whether it’s one month, 2 or 3….. just all have a wonderful time in that big wide world together-we only live once ;-) big hugs xx

  2. I feel so sorry for your grandma… I know how overwhelming sadness can be. F..k it though, you’re right! Close your eyes, relax and enjoy all the beautiful moments with the ones you love… and with yourself as well. I’m pretty sure it will help Dame Nature give you a wonderful gift!:)

  3. Hello lovely. Glad you’re realising that nothing matters but a peaceful mind and being surrounded by loved ones!

    Have an amazing time in NZ… what a special trip!

    Hope to see more of you in 2014. Merry Christmas to you guys.

    2014 will be the best year yet! It helps me to have a word for the year so that my energy goes to making that happen. In 2012 it was Visibility, this year it’s Trust. Working on next years one (have a few days left, n’est-pas) 😉

    Maybe yours can be F*ck it 😘

  4. Anonymous says

    You are a unique individual with immense love and creativity, and no matter where you go and what you do, you will flourish.

    So continue to be alive, celebrate and inspire. And be just who you are becasue that’s what sets you apart.

    Your well wisher

  5. Ich finde es wirklich klasse, dass Sie sich all diese Mühe machen und die Informationen aufbereitet für uns präsentieren. Weiter so!

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