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{WISE WORDS} Thank you

One often assumes the wrong thing or focuses on the wrong things…I thought these words were a beautiful reminder

“Your assumptions about the lives of others are in direct relation to your naïve pomposity. Many people you believe to be rich are not rich. Many people you think have it easy worked hard for what they got. Many people who seem to be gliding right along have suffered and are suffering. Many people who appear to you to be old and stupidly saddled down with kids and cars and houses were once every bit as hip and pompous as you.
When you meet a man in the doorway of a Mexican restaurant who later kisses you while explaining that this kiss doesn’t ‘mean anything’ because, much as he likes you, he is not interested in having a relationship with you or anyone right now, just laugh and kiss him back. Your daughter will have his sense of humor. Your son will have his eyes.
The useless days will add up to something. The shitty waitressing jobs. The hours writing in your journal. The long meandering walks. The hours reading poetry and story collections and novels and dead people’s diaries and wondering about sex and God and whether you should shave under your arms or not. These things are your becoming.
One Christmas at the very beginning of your twenties when your mother gives you a warm coat that she saved for months to buy, don’t look at her skeptically after she tells you she thought the coat was perfect for you. Don’t hold it up and say it’s longer than you like your coats to be and too puffy and possibly even too warm. Your mother will be dead by spring. That coat will be the last gift she gave you. You will regret the small thing you didn’t say for the rest of your life.
Say thank you.”

CHERYL STRAYED, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar 


Filed under: Well-being


Founder of Award-Winning Concept Store BODIE and FOU (now closed) & Photographer, UK's Top 10 Design blog, mum of one cool surfer, 23 years in London, now living by the beach in France, married to a kiwi.


  1. My heart skipped a beat at the end.
    Wise words indeed.
    We only allow others to see what we want them to see. Social media allows us to be very selective and this can often be a false representation of true life.
    Be true to ourselves. Be loyal. Be grateful. Be in love. Be mindful. Be happy. Be you.

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  3. Lorraine Nugent says

    How simple, but true…. It’s all too easy to make judgements and jump to the wrong conclusions. If only we could all be more tolerant and understanding of others……It costs nothing to be kind and say those two words. As also, I’m left with a nice calm feeling after reading your blog. Thank you! x

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